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adiva ([personal profile] adiva) wrote2008-03-07 02:25 pm
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so much has happened

Man, a lot has happened over this past week. I barely know where to begin. I guess I'll try to start at the beginning.

Tuesday I find out that my ex is wanted for murder and robbery and hasn't been seen since Sunday. Obviously, there's a lot of phone calls and general concern. I was a bit worried he'd be coming my way but luckily, that was not the case.

Tuesday night I find out that the nightmare case I've been working on settled but I'm too worried about the earlier problem to really be happy about it.

Wednesday morning I tell my IT boy about the case settling but purposely don't tell him about the ex thing. This is especially true considering that just the Sunday before, I had assured him that my ex was "harmless." Obviously I was wrong. Later, I spend the day telling a few close friends at work about what's happened with my ex, but I still try to maintain an outer appearance of okayness as the team celebrates the settlement. And to be honest, I am glad that I don't have to go to Texas for a month and that I can go on my cruise with the boy, so it's not all feigned okayness. Some of it is real.

By Wednesday night, I decide that it's time to tell the IT boy what's going on. I tell him. I don't exactly get the reaction I am expecting and I am really hurt by it.

Thursday morning, I get an early phone call informing me that my ex has been picked up in the state nearby and that he is in their custody and that the detectives in my ex's original state have been notified. I am unbelievably relieved by this news.

Thursday night, I tell the IT boy that I'm upset. We have a very good conversation. He said he would definitely protect me from anything bad happening and realized that I had a right to be upset about how he handled things. It was a really cathartic conversation.

Friday, I find out that I have been reassigned to a completely different team. This is both extremely welcome news but also puts doubt on a small vacation I was planning to take later this month because the IT boy has vacation time that needs to be used by the end of March or he loses it. Hmmm... I will do my best to stand my ground on taking that vacation, especially since we were told that we should since the settlement happened, etc. At least for 3 days. I could even try working remotely if that's what they need me to do. We shall see.

So there it is. You're all caught up now. Crazy, right? But I'm happy, safe, and moving forward. I suppose that's all a person can ask for.

If you'd like details on the ex's crimes and a more in-depth chronology, or about anything else I've written here, feel free to shoot me an email.

(Anonymous) 2008-03-07 10:13 pm (UTC)(link)
It's pretty fucked up. My highest hope for this situation is that an insanity plea will land him in an institution. The only other outcomes I can see are prison, suicide, or both. I am kind of a wreck.
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[identity profile] jinnyisms2.livejournal.com 2008-03-12 03:05 pm (UTC)(link)
who wrote this i wonder... "I am kind of a wreck." right, well, whoever you are, i am glad to say that the newest news is that he's going down and i, for one, am ecstatic about it. my only sadness comes from the fact that michigan doesn't have a death penalty.

at the very least, i hope he's never allowed to rejoin society ever again. he's a sociopath and made of pure evil. i hope he and his father rot in hell.

oh, and btw, don't use the anonymous thing just because you're too scared to say who you are. that's just weak. post with your name or some other identifier or don't bother at all.

[identity profile] karendipity.livejournal.com 2008-03-08 04:48 am (UTC)(link)
whoa. what a week. dude. we need to see eachother in person. at some point in the future. near future. glad to hear you're on a new team. 3 day weekend shouldn't be a problem, right? (says the girl who hasn't been home for more than 2 days at a time in the last month. seriously though, i'm really happy about the happy news in your post and i'm frightened for you for the frightening news in your post. sorry to hear the boy didn't react as you had hoped, but the fact that he was willing to chat about it is a good sign, methinks. boys are very unpredictable things when it comes to serious situations.
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[identity profile] jinnyisms2.livejournal.com 2008-03-12 03:06 pm (UTC)(link)
me and the boy are doing fine now. and we can totally catch up this week (hopefully?). i feel like i haven't seen you in years. i know it's only been since christmas, but sheesh. that's a long time sistah.